If you have anxiety or depression supporting a relationship can be very difficult. At times your significant other doesn’t seem to get you, other times it seems like they don’t care.
Some days you don’t even want to get out of bed.
How can you have a “good relationship” when you feel so lost, so messed up?
Everyone deserves happiness. A good relationship can be a big part of that happiness. As human beings, we need connection. You’ve probably considered giving up. Yes, it might be nice to think about going it alone, but who are you kidding? We all crave the love of that certain person, it’s how we’re built. Even when you feel utterly defeated, deep down you know you must try again.
This time make things different, prepare yourself to have the relationship that you’ve only dreamed of.
Here are three things we can do to improve your relationships
- We’ll take a look at how you think.
Yes, we have to start with you. Did you think we could make changes to someone else?
What makes you Breathe Fire?
Imagine the last time that you had an argument with someone. Maybe it was your spouse, significant other, or a co-worker.
Do you recall what they triggered inside of you that caused your response, turned you into a fire breathing dragon? Don’t feel bad if you can’t. This is precisely the point. We are often unaware of what’s going on in our heads. The thoughts we miss, and our emotional triggers, can make a terrible mess in our lives.
How am I going to help you learn about your triggers?
To notice your triggers, we first need to establish some awareness, some presence. There are many techniques for establishing greater presence (when you join my program, I’ll teach you several of them). A more interesting question is; how will more presence help you from a practical standpoint?
First, being present and aware is the “art of living.” You can improve your life 10x simply by being there :)
Practically, being present allows you to notice and understand your triggers, which liberates you from a life of painful misunderstanding. Triggers are often referred to as mistaken beliefs. Mistaken beliefs are negative views that you hold about yourself that affect your self-esteem. They determine your feelings about your abilities and your relationships with others.
- I’ll teach you how to recognize your mistaken beliefs and how to develop new, healthy alternatives.
We all have mistaken beliefs, myself included, and forgive my directness, but many of those beliefs are…
bat-shit crazy!
If we really want to grow, transform our lives, we need a new perspective. We need to look at our views about life, our world, through open eyes. Without the filter of mistaken belief.
- Who are you and what do you really want?
This isn’t about some fluffy notion of finding yourself. When we look at who you are, it’s about what you value, what’s important to you. You might think that who you are is “what you do”, or “what you believe”, but who you are is actually about what you value at your core.
We take these core values and map a value-based vision for your future that is satisfying and fulfilling.
Hopefully, as you were reading, you could see obvious benefits to my program. While the areas of focus that I discussed in this profile are important, they don’t include my entire practice.
My program integrates the best of modern applied psychology, which includes mindfulness, effective life coaching, and Cognitive Based Therapy. But my greatest value as a coach is life experience and my sincere wish to understand you and your challenges. I offer tools that we can use together to help achieve the fulfillment that you desire.
I look forward to the opportunity of working with you.
